How to Show Yourself Inner Self Love
Self-love is one of the most discussed topics today, be it in self-help books, or inspirational talk shows, it is everywhere. How has all this information helped you digest what self-love is, or has it just overwhelmed you and you don’t know where to start?
While your relationship with yourself is the most important connection in your life, it is the easiest to forget about when it comes to nurturing it. It sounds like a lot of work. We are often so busy taking care of everyone and everything else that we forget to take care of ourselves. We often think that self-love is something we only have to do once a week at most, but it actually takes place in the little things we do every day.
This blog talks about the different elements of self-love and shows you that you can show yourself some self-love if you just find the right tools.
Changing the Way You Think about Yourself
Maybe you’re have not given much thought to loving yourself more because you’ve been so busy with external obligations. This tends to happen a lot in our fast-paced world. This is why it helps to look inward and find ways to value yourself more.
You could start with giving yourself credit and valuing what you do or finding a way to train yourself to think highly of your accomplishments. At first, it may be difficult, but with the right steps and attitudes, you will be well on your way to having a healthier way of thinking about yourself.
How can you value yourself more:
Self-acceptance: Accepting yourself for who you are is one way of valuing yourself. Know that you are worthy of love and respect, and embrace yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses.
You can learn to accept yourself as you are right now, without needing to change anything. You are whole and complete. You are enough just the way you are. It's okay if you don't have everything figured out. You're perfect just the way you are.
Clarify your purpose: Have some level of clarity on your life purpose. We’re all meant to be doing something great, maybe it's helping the poor, or running a business, or developing a product that can make things easier for people, it could be anything. We all have a great purpose that lies in each and every one of us. The question is how clear is your purpose to you? Ask yourself what a meaningful life means to you, even if that answer changes over time.
Talk positively to yourself: How do you speak to yourself? If you don't know what you're telling yourself, it'll be hard to change it, If you don't like what you hear when you talk to yourself, it's even harder to change it. In fact, it can be difficult to change anything about yourself if you don't know what you're saying to yourself. Think about your self-talk today, and make a decision to change the negative to positive. You have the power to change the script for your life, and it all begins with changing your self-talk. Remind yourself that you have value by speaking to yourself in encouraging and uplifting words, once you do that, you'll be on the road to loving yourself more.
Offer forgiveness: This is an offering of forgiveness to both yourself and others. Show yourself some compassion and let go of the past so that you can move on. Forgiveness is more than just doing something you can live with, it's about living a life that you can be proud of. It's about taking the time to acknowledge your wrongs and working to make amends. Today, I'm happier and better off because I've forgiven. I hope that you're able to forgive others and yourself. Forgiveness is something that takes a lot of emotional courage and strength. It's an important part of living your life with purpose and fulfilment. It's an expression of love and it's an action that can change your life.
Avoid comparisons: Comparing yourself to others increases the potential for envy and inferiority complexes. One of the most prominent problems is the tendency to compare oneself with the image of others. Social media makes it easy to compare your body, intellect or your entire life to someone who lives a completely different reality. Comparing yourself to others can be unhealthy for you and will affect the way you value yourself. If you focus on comparing yourself to your own goals and your own comparisons instead, you'll have a better self-judgment and you'll be a lot happier! You’ll accomplish more if you dare to be yourself. Be positive: People generally love to be around positive people, they have a great time when they're in a positive environment. Being positive will not only help you have more friends and a better social life, but you'll also feel good about yourself. In fact, you'll find that you have more time to do the things that you love to do! Also, being able to laugh at yourself and being silly makes you more loveable. See, it's not that hard to be positive!
Changing the Way You Treat Yourself
Do your actions match your beliefs? You might say you love yourself, but your actions could be sending a different message.
Tips on How You Can Treat Yourself with Kindness
Practice self-care. Develop habits that keep your mind and body fit and strong. Go to bed early and exercise each day. Eat a balanced diet and watch your weight.
Pick friends wisely. Surround yourself with family and friends who encourage and support you. Cultivate close relationships with others who share your goals. Engage in deep conversations where you can share your feelings and receive validation.
Pursue your passions. Identify the activities that bring you joy and fulfilment. Block out time each day for something you love, whether it’s a task related to your job or something you do in your leisure time.
Set goals. Give yourself something to strive for. Working towards realistic and challenging goals builds your confidence as you add to your achievements.
Maintain boundaries. Know your limits so you can define what behaviour you consider acceptable. That may include physical boundaries such as needing your own space and psychological boundaries such as being entitled to your own feelings and opinions.
Advocate for yourself. Once you understand your needs, you can communicate them to others. You’ll grow more skilful as you practice being direct and tactful in letting someone know if they cross your boundaries.
Seek support. Ask for what you need. Let others know specifically what they can do, whether you’re looking for practical assistance like pitching in with housework or just a friendly ear to listen while you sort out your feelings.
Loving yourself can help you to enjoy more happiness, overcome challenges, and build healthier relationships with others. Share with us what you have been doing to treat yourself with kindness and which tip from our list you’ll first try.